Loneliness can be one of those things that is hard to admit
– it can feel like saying ‘I feel sorry for myself.’ Even when surrounded by other people, you can
still be lonely if you feel disconnected from a loving heart, or you feel
unheard or unwanted. As Dr Bach made
clear, different personality types will respond to stressors in different
ways. And loneliness, although subtle,
is a very distinct stressor, and not to be underestimated in the emotional harm
it can cause. Different personality
types will need different remedies and the need for Chicory, say, or Agrimony,
points to the fact that going straight to one of the 3 remedies in the
Loneliness Group may not be appropriate.
That said, Heather types will suffer particularly badly. Many of us lack the one thing in life we want
above all else, without realising that our attitudes and actions, the way we
speak to others or treat them, may be the very thing that prevents us from
getting our heart’s desire. Heather
types – or anyone who needs Heather temporarily at a difficult time – want more
than anything else to feel connected and understood. Sadly though, it’s their absorption in their
own concerns (with no interest in anyone else’s) which prevents them from
receiving the compassionate attention they so badly need. Mechthild Scheffer believes they feel a need
to be validated as actually existing. So
there are people needing Heather now – in crisis, living alone, or in unloving,
unsupportive families – who may not appear to be talkers and yet feel they have
become invisible to the world, unheard, unimportant, a ghost.
Heather has been described as the ‘needy child’ but in times
of global breakdown when everyone is struggling to cope and stay calm, we may
overlook the emotional needs of those who are dying inside through loneliness
and lack of connection to loved ones. They
are suffering deeply, so consider if Heather maybe be relevant when you are
trying to support someone with the flower remedies.
#LonelinessAwarenessWeek
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