Why the Resentment?

 

Dr Bach wanted his system to be as simple and easy as possible and in fact it is quick to learn. But sometimes it can be hard to decide on a remedy for ourselves because we are so close to the problem. Advice from The Astrotwins this week read, ‘… examine your own feelings around playing mother to your loved ones.  Giving a bit less will lessen resentment.’  Many of us might be so busy trying to work out how to ‘fix’ things that we don’t pause to remember that Willow can help us reframe the challenge. We take the situation at its face value – the people or problems that need to be resolved – rather than check if it’s our emotional mood which needs lifting or transforming.

Whenever there is resentment, self-pity or a feeling that life is unfair, Willow is the first essence to turn to.  But once we’ve recovered our equilibrium, we should reflect on what caused us to feel like that.  Examining our emotional lows might reveal to us that it was our over-mothering (Chicory) or inability to say no to helping others (Centaury) that has brought on the resentment.  Or maybe Elm for instance, because we’ve taken on too much responsibility, or Impatiens (‘It’ll be quicker if I do it’, rather than delegating it).

This is why we talk about the remedies having an onion-peeling effect.  We initially only see the need for Willow but as we gain more self-knowledge and self-awareness we go a bit deeper in our psyche and perceive the need for other remedies, including all the ones NOT mentioned above!