Brene Brown says that when we call people by non-human names (eg animals, aliens) we place them outside of our moral inclusion zone, and effectively dehumanize them. They are no longer ‘one of us’. This ‘othering’ is dominating a lot of the internet at present and infecting us with its divisiveness, which sadly can and often does transfer into our daily contacts with other people.
We may need to review the attitudes we
are bringing to this issue. We cannot
change other people but we can become doubly aware of how we react or would
like to respond. If you are feeling the
urge to tell someone they are wrong, should shut up and listen to someone who
knows, then take Vine to ease that tyrannical streak. If you see the other
person as inferior to you, as someone who should think or behave a lot better
than than they are doing, take Beech for a more tolerant and understanding outlook. And if the urge is there to post something
spiteful or hateful, then take Holly.
And if you are on the receiving end of some this widespread
antipathy, and have given up believing you can do anything about a particular
situation, select Wild Rose in order to take back your agency. If something
seems like an attack on the most vulnerable part of yourself, causing you to
feel as though you’re about to lose your rag and say or do something you would
later regret, take Cherry Plum. If you feel you must fight every battle in
order to win people over to your way of thinking, or to convince them to join
you in your ‘crusade’, take Vervain.
And lastly, be kind to yourself. If someone says or posts something designed to make you feel guilty, take Pine. If their posts undermine your self-confidence, take Larch. If their words trigger in you a feeling of self-dislike, or uncleanliness, take Crab Apple.
"A fellow feeling makes us wondrous kind." Alexander Pope
There is more info on these flower remedies in my new book, Space to Reflect, click here.
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| Pascal Campion |
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